In the summer of 2002, after I had written an article in Esquire that the White House didn’t like about Bush’s former communications director, Karen Hughes, I had a meeting with a senior adviser to Bush. He expressed the White House’s displeasure, and then he told me something that at the time I didn’t fully comprehend — but which I now believe gets to the very heart of the Bush presidency.
The aide said that guys like me were ”in what we call the reality-based community,” which he defined as people who ”believe that solutions emerge from your judicious study of discernible reality.” I nodded and murmured something about enlightenment principles and empiricism. He cut me off. ”That’s not the way the world really works anymore,” he continued. ”We’re an empire now, and when we act, we create our own reality. And while you’re studying that reality — judiciously, as you will — we’ll act again, creating other new realities, which you can study too, and that’s how things will sort out. We’re history’s actors … and you, all of you, will be left to just study what we do.”
Faith, Certainty and the Presidency of George W. Bush by Ron Suskind for NYT Magazine
October 17, 2004
According to Wikipedia (citing a dead tree book), the aide was Karl Rove.
Can we just call this the fucking Inception presidency? Who the hell TALKS LIKE THAT? Oh, right: Rove.
“Our solutions won’t address real problems but we’ll make sure the world thinks they do.” What the flipping fuck.
You know who else believes they create reality… sociopaths. Food for thought perhaps?
We need to re-evaluate the way we communicate with people that cannot find work.
“Just get a job.”
This is the most insulting, gratuitous piece of horseshit advice we can ever offer someone that cannot find sufficient work. If you have a friend that cannot find a job, it is important to be compassionate and not blame them. Sometimes people need to vent, and they need you to understand that what worked for you will not work for them. You need to understand that people that cannot find work, but have also turned down work, are not doing it because they are uppity or picky; it is because the job literally would cost them more in the long run. Consider:
The parent that is currently out of work and is able to accept benefits and care for a child but cannot accept a position that pays $40k a year because they will not be able to afford child care. Put yourself in his or her shoes.
Consider the person that has been told all his/her life to go to school, “apply himself” and get a degree that now has an MBA but tons of student debt and cannot accept a job that will permit him to not only support himself, but also his loved ones and also satisfy his student debt.
Sometimes, a person does not want to hear you say “you need to go back to school” or “you need to increase the amount of jobs you’re applying for per week” because that shit ain’t always the answer. There are people out here that are doing all of this and more that still cannot find work and have to deal with the added stress of not knowing where their next meal is coming from.
It’s like someone that is naturally thin giving someone diet advice. That shit is insensitive and insulting.
Please understand that if you have loved ones that are stressed because they are busting their asses to find work but can’t and need to vent, that they are not lazy, they are not entitled, they are not stupid. They are trying their damnedest and being judged by you only makes it worse.
If you have a job, no matter how you got it, you are far more blessed. Consider the stories collected by this site and re-evaluate the way you talk (down) to people that cannot find work:
essay: don’t fuck conservatives.
There is much good advice that can be given to teenagers and people in their 20s and 30s.
But the best advice of all is this: don’t fuck conservatives, and especially don’t marry them.
freedom from narrow definitions of gender that restrict your ability to express yourself but instead insist that you act your gender out as bullshit, baseless tradition dictates
not having to deal with a person whose guilt over perceived religious condemning of the ickiness and dirtiness of his own body makes him insist on doing it missionary style and then like crying afterward
and rejection of an entitlement mentality that enslaves a woman to housework regardless of her own desires and enslaves a man to corporate labor regardless of his own desires
recognizing the benefits of sex for pleasure and for procreation when both partners are ready, not just when the condom fails
recognizing that saying magic spells to fix your problems is a really stupid way to deal with mental illness or addiction
drinking, gambling, pornography, and smoking can be super fun if done in moderation and out in the open. Hiding things from the people you love is a form of lying, and lies lead to other lies, and if you date a conservative who hides and lies, before you know it, you’re Mrs. Ted Hagerty walking in on her meth-addled husband banging a gay prostitute with much more zeal than he ever banged you.
freedom from such bullshit phrases as “the liberal media” and “Hollywood values.”
free to relate to your partner as an equal, freedom to see flaws in socially engrained misogyny and racism and freedom to work with your partner to move beyond that way of thinking
freedom from super embarrassing gay sex scandals
freedom to give and to receive as much anal and oral sex as you and your partner see fit, as liberals do not believe sodomy to be an abomination and I’ve heard wonderful things about both.
I regularly reap the benefits of NOT fucking a conservative. See also: interviewing a porn star tonight.